I looked up the word “classy” and one definition described it in this way: “Classy can refer to someone who puts a high standard on the way he/she behaves.”
I recently watch a video by Dominique Sachse entitled “Keep It Classy, Girlfriend” and her thoughts got me to thinking especially about one particular point she made…
“Class” is pretty much a lost commodity in our society. One reason for that is we, as a society, more and more speak from our emotions rather than from our brains. When people disagree with each other, there is a tendency to begin spewing emotional insults toward the one who dare to disagree. There is very little “exchange of ideas.” This often leads to a “potty mouth” kind of communication, which is not classy! Also, to talk at someone rather than with him or her is a supreme lack of class. This birdy picture is cute. I guess it represents the opposite of what the verse in Ephesians 4 is encouraging!
The remedy of engaging in this mindless and un-classy way of communicating is to have some quiet reflection time: reading, praying, thinking…knowing not just what we believe, but why we believe it. And looking into the beliefs of the “other side,” because how can we exchange ideas in a thoughtful way if we only know one side of an issue? Being a good and genuine listener is class par excellence’.
Recently, I had the flu (which I haven’t had in over a decade) But when I was feeling bad, I read a book sent to me by someone who holds a way different religious view from my own. I read the whole book in one day (ahhh, the luxury of being sick). But I wanted to kind of get into the head of someone who believes differently from me.
It was a truly great book with some admirable thought behind it, but in the end, I had to “agree to disagree” on some very major issues. But we are surely more able to have an exchange of ideas in a positive way rather than a condemnation match when we take time to understand the point of view of another person.
Cursing, insulting, bad-mouthing, and in general being a self-centered blaster in communication is a true lack of class. I don’t mean being a conflict avoid-er. If you know me, you know that I am not that! But conflict doesn’t have to be nasty. Having strong convictions about something doesn’t necessarily mean that those who don’t agree are the enemy.
Trust me, I personally have a long way to go in learning this whole thing. But I usually write about issues where I need improvement, and I do need to improve my communication class level, that’s for sure! Writing about it makes me think twice before I lunge into bad habits.
We sparkle when we know what we know because we have thought it through, but we aren’t so arrogant as to think that no other opinion is worth listening to. What a different world we would live in if we were all committed to “keep it classy”!